BE KIND TO OTHERS BUT DON’T FORGET TO BE GENTLE AND KIND WITH YOURSELF
One of the many reasons I started a writing and created this website destination again is kindness and urgency. Writing and creating has been a part of me since I was a little girl. I even art directed and wrote my own magazine when I was 11. My sisters were my only subscribers. The arts are important, especially for someone like me. I create to survive; it is my outlet for righting a wrong, for highlighting the beauty around us, for my own well-being and to put something out there that is genuine and has integrity.
For these reasons and more, I choose to write about brands and subjects that make people feel good. I research brands, not always for their products, but also for the way they treat people. If a brand builds its empire by mistreating others, I do not want any part of it. Of course, no one is perfect and people make mistakes, but I am a big believer in empathy and kindness. These are qualities that are often mistaken for a weakness. It is not celebrated enough and not practiced enough. I sometimes struggle with being a sensitive and empathetic person, I feel as if I am not doing enough to help the homeless I see on the street, to stand up to a bully, to fight when I see someone’s talents or well-being overlooked or harmed. When bullies end up being put on the pedestal, it can feel as if we are powerless.
I leave you with this. Not all struggle is visible or talked about. Try to be as gentle and kind as possible. Being a good person is not that hard. If we showed more love and kindness, instead of hate, gossip and bullying, the world would not be such a cruel place. More importantly, you cannot control what others do. Be gentle and kind in your own internal dialog. Self-care is not a magic cure, but it is a powerful tool at your disposal. Taking a break to take care of your well-being is something that should be second nature and not looked down on. A long life is not guaranteed and it is simply too short to spend it by giving away your power of well-being.
Mental Health is another subject altogether and one I will not dare tackle here. I know firsthand self-care can be hard if you are struggling with something more serious, such as depression or anxiety. Know that you are not alone. If you or someone you love needs to talk, call the suicide prevention lifeline 1-800-273-8255 or 1-800-662-HELP (4357) for help with finding a local in-person service.